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4 years difference isn t that bad, not like your friends can make fun of you about it; in fact they might praise you for it. At that age though a lot of the pressure i felt came from myself thinking that the guy would run off if i wasn t ready for sex early enough, so reassuring her it s fine to wait as long as she needs might help.  some opinions by wikianswers contributors: my mother was 16 when she married my father at 32. Cops got involved a few times, but in the end when i was 15 we got an apartment together. My parents would make boyfs dinner, breakfast, ask all sorts of polite and interesting questions, request their help with diy and generally be super super super nice. No matter what anybody says, if you love him, you love him regardless. If he is a decent bloke he will understand and won t mind. Add message | report hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman sat 15-dec-12 22:23:13 i think that if you accept i and welcome him you keep the lines of communication open between you and her. My first proper boyfriend was 19 and i was 15. Mark twain said: when i was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant i could hardly stand to have the old man around. But all you can do is set boundaries and supervise when possible. We are very prone to overestimating the level of our maturity when we are teenagers. If you love the person and you feel you re ready, go ahead, but remember the consequences of your actions 16 dating 20 year old. I ll be honest - he did ask for sex a lot. But really, had they stood back, given me credit for having a brain and themselves credit for having brought me up well - they would have seen that backing the fuck off would have been a much better strategy. This was not fine add message | report opheliasweepingwillow sun 16-dec-12 03:46:45 am not mother to a teenager but i remember being one. Add message | report modernartdiva sun 16-dec-12 14:59:09 thankyou so much. They ve been together about 15 months now and he is a lovely boy. Whether it was wrong for them to love each other is a question that is easily answered by people who have never found themselves in that situation however the result of that love was that a woman who was much too young to be lumbered with a family ended up with 3 kids by the time she was 21.

And like you say, we were concerned about setting a precedent for future bfs, which is why we don t let them share a bed at our house (however serious their relationship) whilst she is still at school. Some people like to think that age doesn t matter, but the law does 16 dating 20 year old. Sounds like you were well able to make your own decisions at that age - what a pity your parents didn t see that at the time yes, it s a great pity really and it s only now that i really realise just how much of an affect it had on the rest of my life. I say no because there is always a person for someone to love in the world so there is nothing wrong at all.

  • there is nothing wrong with it; when i was 14, i was in love with an 18 year old my parents did not approve of.

  • if you love the person and you feel you re ready, go ahead, but remember the consequences of your actions. the person i love and i have a four year age gap. If you have them both onside then they re less likely to do things behind your back, hth add message | report robinsbaublesparkles sun 16-dec-12 15:17:51 when my sister was 16 she had a 21 year old boyfriend.

  • no, there s no problem with that, as long as you don t do any thing stupid and if you both are mature. We will be celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary in january and we will have been together 12 years in april (dm isn t horrified anymore, she loves him) don t pry but let her know that you trust her and are there to talk to if she needs it. It does also set a precedent for future bf s.

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